Note to Blueshirts

Blueshirts:

It has been a rough couple of days for me. I acted out on Wednesday and I barely made it through the day yesterday. It took a commitment to phone calls every two hours yesterday to avoid acting out. I was very slippery.

Rod helped me set up fences yesterday and for that I am very grateful.

During one of our conversations yesterday, we started exploring an issue which I would like to submit to the group: How do we deal with the unexpected?

In particular, Rod and I noticed that we both have difficulty with unstructured time when our spouses are absent. This is especially true if the unstructured time is unanticipated. So it leads to a few questions for us to think about:

1. Why do we so quickly feel lonely and anxious when our spouses are absent?

2. Why is this more difficult to deal with when the absence is unscheduled?

3. Why can I prepare for these times in advance, but not when they are sudden?

4. What should we do when confronted with unexpected opportunity?

5. Is there any way we can practice skills that will help us when the unexpected comes along?

Please think about these issues. E-mail if you have thoughts or bring thoughts to our next meeting.

Peace!